My whole approach to dating is different this time. I get nervous, but not like I used to. I think that this is because I finally know my own value. For the first time in my life, I approach dates with the thought that I am there to see if I like them…not to hope they like me.
I created a profile on OkCupid and POF ( Plenty of fish ) I wound up deleting the latter fairly quickly.
I like OkCupid because it has tons of questions you can answer to improve your matches. I answered lots of them, but left the extremely personal ones blank. For example, I am not sure it is in any single females best interest to list that she enjoys anal sex … that seems to me to be one of the things you share as a relationship builds.
So, I pick and choose what I answer carefully.
Men who approach me and jumped right into sex or kink conversation are quickly blocked.
I am interested in both, but only with the right man. That man, will be interested in getting to know me as a person before attempting to step into those zones.