The kind of on fire that feels like you are slowly cooking from the inside out.. And every so often the heat feels like a spontaneous combustion is imminent… Your skin is hot to touch. But cold sweats. Skin can flush.
Sound sexy? Yeah… It’s not.
Now picture yourself on a date.
I strategically dress as cool as possible… Which combined with the Texas heat is no small task.
Look for places with fans. Bonus points if you can find a place with water misters.
Give yourself credit for even getting asked out on the date in the first place. That whole over 40 and single thing.. Feel like week old bread on the clearance rack some days. Even on a good day I still fall firmly in the “ma’am ” category and it sucks.
Thanks to menopause, and night sweats, you haven’t been sleeping well… Leading to mood swings and irritability!!
Ding Ding irritable … Like when your date takes their phone and spins it around on the table like a top, with the video recorder on… Just to show you what they think is a cool thing… And you want to smash said cell phone…. And then ask him exactly what grade of junior high school he was stuck in because… Well because stupid.
You tell your date about menopause, and hot flashes because the heat has eaten what’s left of your brain.
Yeah I don’t know what made you think THAT was a good idea.
So here comes the inevitable question… Are you still interested in sex? Because of course you are on a date, and sooner or later this guy is looking to get laid.
Still interested in sex? Who knows. It’s been a year and a half now. Thankfully ( I guess ) I have no problem with dryness… But I have not even had interest in masturbation…the connection between thought and deed is never made anymore.
Maybe because I don’t sleep well and I’m too fucking tired??? Or is that irritable? 😄
That doesn’t bode well for him. Neither does the fact that the stupid cell phone trick burned up whatever amount of attraction I once had.
No kiss goodnight. Don’t want to be hugged because I don’t need any additional body heat.
On way home I notice my smell. Yeah that heat/perspiration… It ain’t pretty.
I’m not sure how you bring sexy back. But I’m trying.
Anyway…. I can’t really speak to menopause affecting stress or anxiety, as those are my normal.
Ditto with memory… Due to my strokes several years ago, my memory is like Swiss cheese as it is… I wouldn’t be likely to notice much there.
Anyway…. That’s my reality at the moment.
Some of us girls are on fire ❤️