I think this is as good a starting place as any…
And unfortunately, like in any other facet of life, there are abusers.
They are not what BDSM is about. They are as much an aberration as they are in the non-kink world. Actually, maybe even more so… Because trust and consent are the foundations for what we do
For me, BDSM is being free. Feeling. Releasing….
It’s about connecting with another being.
It’s about love. For me anyway.
And a lot of those shows you see on TV… yeah, that’s a bit of the lifestyle… and unfortunately not really representative of most people.
Just my opinion.
If you saw me on the street, you would never in 1 million years guess my secret.