I am a submissive woman. I say this because I like my relationship partners to be dominant. Or Dominant.
Personally, I don’t really buy into the whole capitalization thing. U/us for example. Gets on my damn nerves really but I digress. That’s a post for another day perhaps.
If I were to describe myself… I’d say that I’m quiet and reserved. Until I’m not.
I’m not aggressive and I’m not assertive. If anything, I am actually a pleaser. I want others to be happy… I hate conflict and will do anything I can to avoid it.
But I do have my limits. And once you’ve crossed that nearly invisible line of mine… Well, stand back. I am after all, a Scorpio woman. And Glinda ( the good witch- a nickname from my loving friends )
My wrath is quiet. It’s almost always with a smile on my face. But mark my words, it’s deadly. I can cut you to your core.
Anyway… I’m ONLY attracted to dominant or alpha men.
I can’t date or be with a man who isn’t made of strong stuff.
I used to think they had to be stronger than me…. but I am starting to realize that is a very tall order… And maybe they just have to be strong enough to stand up to me, and to stand with me in the storms.
Selina and I were having a conversation the other day where I was telling her about a particularly unpleasant exchange the night before between me and new guy. ……After what seemed like an hour of back and forth with him, and not feeling like I was being heard….I bared my claws and dug in. The next morning I was feeling both sorry and justified.
Anyway… It made me start questioning myself as a submissive woman. And that is when Selina asked me why I kept doubting my submissive nature because I don’t magically fall to my knees for every man.. And asked the question I am still thinking about ” Have you stopped to think that maybe like me you are an alpha sub, or that you have a feline nature repressed inside of you?”
Truth is, I am friends with lots of alpha subs. Actually, I think my friends are all alpha. That is what I am drawn to. But I see them as larger than life… and me….not so much.
But what I am is strong. I have been through A LOT in this lifetime.
If you have ever seen The last of the Mohicans, Cora Munroe is a character I identify with strongly.
I think this clip is pretty great actually. He loves her spirit… her strength. He meets her challenge with quiet confidence and then you see it…
That moment is one I dream of