Hmm… Misconceptions. At my age (49) most of my friends ( All ) are married and/or have kids. They look at single life as one of no responsibility. Complete freedom. Fun.
Yeah there is some truth there. But probably way more when one is in their 20s than at my age.
Responsibility… Everything relies on me. I don’t have a spouse or significant other to supplement my income. I don’t have someone else helping save for my future.
Everything that needs doing is on me. Whatever doesn’t get done, or done right.. Yeah that’s on me too.
Bad situation… again me. Time to figure shit out.
I could go on and on about my different responsibilities. We all have them.
And yes, it would be nice to have a partner to lean on… But, that said… Yes, it is also nice to not have to answer to anyone besides myself. I do have complete autonomy as to my decisions.
I’ll admit that’s pretty nice.
Fun? Sometimes. Due to the responsibilities of my friend’s own lives, I don’t get to see them as often as I’d like. That just is what it is… Another ten years and we’ll be in yet another phase of life… Crazy to think about.
I was speaking with a girlfriend the other day. She has a husband, and a baby. The things I always longed for… She was telling me how some days she wishes she was single. And I shared with her how much I wish I had a husband, and a family to come home to…. to take care of….. But because we are friends, we were able to have this beautiful, non-judgmental conversation about how none of us have the perfect life… that all of us have those moments of wanting something more or less… something different.
I realize at this time in my life that we all have our paths to walk… our own lessons to learn. And we all somehow intersect…
What I try to do is focus on what I do have. I’ve received many blessings in life…and I believe that that there is more to come.
And then I’ll miss these days of being single… 🙂